It is often misunderstood when it comes to the definition of a roommate and a housemate. A roommate is someone you literally live with in the same room and not in the same house like a housemate. If you live in separate rooms and each of you are paying separate rentals that accumulate to the entire rental of the house, then you have housemates, whereas if you are sharing a room with another person and paying half the rent, you are living with a roommate. I guess it is kind of confusing but maybe a easier way to look at it is a roommate is a subset of a housemate, means that they can be your roommate and your housemate at the same time. It’s like having the yellow yolk in the centre of your “sunny side up” or “telur mata kerbau”” as your roommates and the white part of the egg as your housemates, either way you will have both unless of course you are living in an entire house or an apartment by yourself which will be highly unlikely unless you don’t mind footing the entire monthly rental. Anyway, enough on the definitions roommates and housemates, what I wanted to share with you is that it is very important to be very clear on the type of the roommates of the housemates that you choose to live with.
Firstly, if you are a female, it is a usual norm that you will probably be looking for female only tenanted house unless of course you are the more adventurous type looking for a more mixed sex type of accommodation, it would not be very difficult to locate as they are many landlords who would not want to narrow down their targeted group of tenants to just “female only” or just “male only”. From my experience, the only reason why a landlord would advertise room vacancy as male only is because there are already existing males in the house and the landlord knows that the majority of females out there would not want to live in the same house with another unknown male. There are multiple reasons for this but the main important reason seems to be (from my questions to females viewing my rooms) is security. The stories that I tend to hear from the females are quite extraordinary from drunken males in the house knocking on their doors in the middle of the night asking for god knows what but I think you will have an idea of what I am illustrating to you here to the males who tend to be a bit less concerned about the cleanliness of the house. Don’t get me wrong as I myself am a male so I am not taking sides here but as a landlord, you do get to see and experience both sides of the story. As a landlord, my ultimate objective is to ensure that I offer a safe, secure, clean, value for money accommodation for all my tenants, be it male or female. There are of course, better non-horror stories where the males in the house are total gentlemen type of guys and they totally respect all the females of the house and it’s kind of like each sex taking care of the household which is sort of like in a relationship, well in this scenario, the females would be a bit more secure in a house with males around, while the house would be a bit more presentable and cleaner with females around. Sure sounds like there’s two sides of a coin to almost everything. Most importantly is to know what you are getting yourself into and always follow your gut feel when viewing the rooms and of course the tenants of the house that you are visiting. I would love to hear any comments on this article if you have any, till then, happy room hunting!